"I don't know how you do it," Haley said to her good friend Debbie. They were sitting on the porch at Debbie's house. The ladies were enjoying their weekly chat over diet sodas. Even though they lived in the same neighborhood, they were often going in different directions. So they made sure to have this soda date religiously.
"How I do what?" Debbie asked.
"I don't know how you handle having your son in the military," Haley said. "It would drive me crazy. I'd be worried all the time."
Debbie smiled. "Sometimes I don't know how I do it," she admitted. "However, I've learned that I can either live in worry or live in confidence. Daniel is doing what he loves and is serving our country. I am so proud."
"I guess you have to choose to focus on the pride rather than the fear," Haley said.
"That's a good way to put it," Debbie said. "I still think about his safety every day. But when I get fearful thoughts, I think about his dedication. I think about his service and his training. I also try not to think about some of the tasks, exercises, missions, and drills he has to do."
"I bet you miss him," Haley said.
"I do, especially when he has to go far away, like when he went to Kabul, Afghanistan. That was a distressing time for my mind! But he needs my support, not my fear. He needs to know I am behind him. So I stay positive and encouraging when I talk to him."